As many of you know, we are a foster family.
While I can't go into detail about
what our particular situation is,
I can discuss fostering in general.
I plan on answering some common questions
that I get when people find out that we have foster children.
I hope this gets you interested in the fostering system
and at the same time answers some of your questions about
what it is like to be raising children that are not your biological children.
Question 1- (typically when we are out as a family):
Are they all yours? (Referring to the four children)
My answer:
Yes.
Explanation:
They are all ours,
not because I gave birth to all four children
but because for this moment we are responsible
for their well being, health, and emotional stability.
I have a philosophical/religious belief
that all children are God's children, not ours,
and we as adults have been given the
responsibility/blessing of raising them the best we can
while they are here on Earth.
So, yes, they are all mine.
And besides, do I owe any sort of explanation
to a stranger in the Wal Mart who is nosy enough to ask?
Question 2: Is fostering difficult?
My answer:
Yes and No.
Explanation:
Yes, there are many difficult parts to fostering, but for me
the blessings outweigh the downfalls in the long run.
That is not saying there never days when I feel
like throwing in the towel and giving up.
I am human and I have bad days and
I make mistakes.
There is a lot of hurry up and wait while fostering...
you are dealing with government and laws.
There are many hands in the pot,
so to speak, so getting the different parties to communicate
is a difficult thing.
There is also a lot of uncertainty.
We have no say what happens to the children in the long run.
Their fate lies in the hands of Social Services and the Master
in charge of the case.
So, when you are a planner and a control freak, like me,
it becomes difficult waiting for
all the people in charge to make the decisions
that will affect your family for the rest of everyone's life.
With that said,
the things that make it worth it are:
the hugs,
the kisses,
watching the kids grow and learn,
watching my bio children learn service to others,
and creating a bond with two other humans
that will last a lifetime.
Question 3: Are you adopting them?
My answer:
I don't know.
Explanation:
As I said earlier, we are not in charge
of the foster child's future.
We have no say in what the plan will be for him/her..
I can say, that whatever that plan is,
we, as a foster family, will be there to support
the children along that path.
Those are three of the most common questions that
I get on an almost daily basis, so I thought
maybe some of you may be wondering too.
Just so you know, if you have any questions
about anything in the future,
anything at all...photography, fostering, farm life,
I now have an "Ask Tracey" button
on the top navigation bar.
Feel free to ask questions there as you think of them
and I will either answer you directly or blog the answer.
Have a good one.